Growing up, I didn’t have much confidence. I didn’t really like what I saw in the mirror, my voice, my hair, etc. I lived in my mind, constantly bullying myself. If you asked me to pick out something I liked about myself, it probably would’ve taken me a while.
Self-love isn’t a concept I grasped until the past couple of months to be honest. But once I got with the program, things changed gradually (see Enough). Everything isn’t always sunshine and rainbows on the matter but I now genuinely believe that I’m amazing, and I hope that you’ll come to believe that about yourself, too.
Here are some ways to get started on that journey to true self-love:
8 WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE
1. BE KIND TO YOURSELF
Compliment yourself! Be nice to yourself. You’ve faced so much and are still standing. You are unique and there’s no one out there that’s just like you. What is it that you like about yourself? What makes you, you? Acknowledge and own those things!
2. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF
As much as we use social media and stare at our TV’s, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison. But have you ever heard the quote “Comparison is the thief of joy”? It’s so true. Comparison is the #1 killer of self-love and self esteem. You’re NEVER going to be whoever it is you’re comparing yourself to. That’s just reality. & Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to admire someone… but stop basing your value on how your life measures up to someone else’s.
(See The Thief Of Joy)
3. CARE FOR YOURSELF (duh)
When you love someone, you do what you can to make sure they’re taken care of, right? So it should be the same for you. Love yourself, nourish yourself, take care of yourself.
4. SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
Setting healthy boundaries kind of goes hand in hand with taking care of yourself because it’s so important for your wellbeing. This means it’s okay to say “no”. Whether it be to work, relationships, or other things that negatively effect your life/cause you more harm than good.
5. TREAT YOURSELF…
Many of us have been taught to treat others how we want to be treated, but are constantly so mean to ourselves. I challenge you to treat yourself with care and compassion. Treat yourself how you’d like to be treated by others.
6. IMPROVE YOURSELF
Work on yourself. What do you hope for? What do you need to do to get where you wanna be? Do you want to get in shape? Do you want to be a better person in general? Work on that! Stop procrastinating. Pursue your hopes and dreams. Set goals. Work hard. Work out. Educate yourself…whatever it may be.
7. APPRECIATE YOUR LIFE
Of course, everything isn’t always perfect. But be grateful for the life you have. Sometimes you have to get out of your own head and just take a moment to think about what you’re grateful for. It could always be much worse.
8. CELEBRATE YOURSELF
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Celebrate your wins and be grateful for what you learn from the L’s you take. Everything doesn’t always turn out how you plan, but slow progress is still progress.
Remember: You are valued and precious to God. Self-love isn’t something that you just wake up doing one day. It takes time and doesn’t happen over night, but it’s so important. Be patient with yourself.
*We are all a work in progress.❤
“I will give thanks to you because I have been so amazingly and miraculously made. Your works are miraculous, and my soul is fully aware of this.” Psalm 139:14
What are some ways you practice self love? Let me know in the comments!